Dating meeting the children
One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.
If you have young children, under the age of 14, bribery works to get things off to a good start.
Here are a few good ways to introduce your prospective husband or significant other to your children: Let your children get to know him in small doses until they begin to ask about him on their own. When you introduce a new person to a child the child is always going to be cautious.
Truth be told, younger children (under age 10) may feel confused, angry, or sad because they tend to be possessive of their parents.
Renowned researcher Constance Ahrons, who conducted a 20-year study of children of divorce, concluded that most children find their parent’s courtship behaviors confusing and strange.
When you feel you have made a good choice and are ready to move on to the next step, there are several things you can do.
Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.
Another important consideration when introducing your kids to a new love interest is their age.
Don’t ever bring your kids on a date — even if he agrees to meet you at the park because your schedule is “so busy.” A better choice?
If you and your guy are in a relationship that lasts past the three-month mark and are making the commitment to be exclusive, begin to slowly introduce him to your kids.